I always feel a little weird on Father's Day. I haven't had any contact with my biological Dad since I was 13? 14? It's hard to remember now.
My stepfather was a damn junkie and when he wasn't on drugs, crazy as a loon.
I see everyone posting online this weekend about their dads and going places for Father's Day and to me it seems so foreign.
Then again, any family gatherings seem foreign to me as I don't have a close family. My closest family member is my younger brother and I only talk to him once every three or four months.
This normally doesn't create much of a problem for me. I accepted that I don't have a close family a long time ago. I do wish on occasion I had more contact with my brother and that I was a little closer to my mom but things are the way they are.
This year though is a little harder for me. I didn't really think about my biological dad at all before my brother found our half sister. When he found her I saw family pictures online felt like a lost teenager all over again.
Now that the initial shock is over he once again rarely crosses my mind but this past week I've been having dreams about him. I can only assume it's because Father's Day is here.
Anyway, it got me to thinking - What the hell was going through his mind? How can you desert your own child? Did I mean that little to him? Did/does he regret it? Have guilt? Is he ashamed or completely happy with his decision?
If it's the latter what kind of person does that make him? I mean, you DO NOT abandon your responsibilities and now that I think about it my older brother was about the same age (maybe a year or so younger) when my dad and stepmom decided to tell him my dad wasn't his real father and he didn't get to come with us (me and my little brother) on weekend visitations anymore.
He had raised my older brother since he was a toddler and then to just drop something like that? What kind of person does that?
*Sigh* Maybe in the end I have him and my stepfather to thank. I mean, I'm sure both of them played a big role in the person I came to be.
I'm incredibly blunt to a fault and I am VERY black and white. Is that because of all the lies?
I have a strong work ethic and feel I don't have a choice but to do my best to follow through with my responsibilities. Is that because the rug has been pulled out from under so many times?
I also have horrible insecurities about people leaving me, I can be crushed if find out I've disappointed someone, and I have a very, very hard time trusting people.
Now don't get me wrong, I'm not saying they are to blame for everything wrong in life, nothing is my fault, I can't change it blah, blah, blah. I'm just curious in how big a role they both played in shaping my personality.
Hmmmmm....Well, this post kind of went in a completely different direction than I had originally planned but I'm glad I got it out.
Now that I've been a total "
Debbie Downer" I'm going to enjoy my Sunday. Hopefully I can get some painting in.
I hope you have a Happy Father's Day if you celebrate it or if not, you enjoy your regular ol' Sunday too.